1/25/2006

Every day Travis gets closer to agreeing with me being a surrogate. He is playing devils advocate. That is what I love to hate about him! I spoke to Shantel, the director last night, she is so nice. She was telling me about a couple that lives in the DFW area who is looking for a surrogate. I am so ready to turn in my application, all it is lacking is Travis' signature.
He is now held up on the concerns of selective reduction and medical abortion. Both are very scary thoughts for anyone and it is something I have to decide during the contract phase.
Will I be willing to reduce from 3-4 embryos to 2? Which is decided in the contract before we start the process.
Will I be willing to terminate the pregnancy due to severe medical problems of the baby? Which is also decided before we start the process.
When Travis heard that I would say yes to both, I think it shocked him. I would never do it if this was our child(ren) but it is what the Intended Parents (IPs) want. Maybe they don't have the resources to care for more that 2 children at once. Also after spending so much money to have a child, they may not have the financial resources to raise a medically unstable child.
I cannot judge them for the decision, just agree with them and know I will never know why they did it.
I hope Travis understands this and signs the application, so that we can go forward and I can help complete someone's familiy.